Are you thinking about moving back in with your parents? Whether that is after college, a breakup, divorce, with a baby or a family, at the age of 30, 40 or any other age, because you want to save money, you don't have a job, you want to take care of your elderly parents, or for any other reason, here you will find useful tips to help you take the decision to move and also help you cope once you have relocated back to your parents' home. Moving back into
Set some rules for everyone. On the one hand, you may not be a little girl or a little boy any more, and your parents need to understand that. Ask them to knock on your door before entering and if there are other things which you need, make your requests. It will help your parents understand you. On the other hand, be considerate of your parents’ feelings, too. That is leaving your room a total mess and not helping out with the housework may not be very good ideas. Discuss with your parents what their expectations are for your stay at their house or apartment so everyone is clear and happy with them.
Be clear about who needs what.Since you are no longer a kid, talk about money with your parents. May be they cannot afford to pay off your car loan and need you to participate in the expenses that every home and family has. Don’t be shy to have this conversation with your parents as well. Being clear about everyone’s duties and responsibilities will help both you and them to feel comfortable. It is OK to be honest and upfront with your parents.Perhaps you won't feel like getting calls from your folks every five minutes, just because it's past midnight and you're not home yet. So, set some ground rules!
Set the clock. You need motivation to make a step into the direction that you want. That is be clear about why you are moving back home with your parents and how long you’re going to be staying there. Discuss this with them so they are clear with your goal and can be supportive. Do you just need some place to stay for a few months before university starts or do you want to stay until you find the right job for you?
Keep your life. Keep your friends, hobbies, interests, etc. – pretty much everything you liked doing before moving back to parents’ house. Most likely you’ve gotten out of the habit of living with your folks so sticking to things that you regularly do will help you gradually make the transition between living on your own/ in college/ with roommates/ etc. to living with mum and dad again. Perhaps your mum will be worried if you’re not back home by 3 a.m. Your parents may need time to get used to seeing the new you after you have lived away for a while, so give them some time to get to know your new way of life.
Get advantage of the opportunity.May be it is the way your mum can put stains off clothes or the way your dad uses his tools, but try to have fun and learn new things. Try to find some benefits of moving back with parents, especially if this is the last thing you wanted, and for sure you will spot many. If you had other plans, don’t be sad, make the best of where you are while working your way towards your goal.
Author Pamela Smith